I’m Not Perfect…

born to be real

I may not be perfect, I may have faults and weaknesses, I might have gotten off the track. I may have a long way to go – but I am something and I will make the the most of that something.

That was a quote from Maxwell Maltz.

It’s easy to get down on ourselves when the self esteem and confidence runs low. We’re all guilty of putting ourselves down at some point…

but we shouldn’t.

One of the biggest contributors to our happiness in general is our happiness with ourselves.

We need to stop trying to be perfect.

We are all perfect in our imperfection.

So next time, when things go wrong… rather than say “I’m such a screw up” or “I’m so stupid” or something along those lines..

think about why you feel inclined to say those words…

And realize that they’re only hurting you.

You are Something. You Are Someone.

You are not perfect and neither am I… (nor is the rest of the world)

You’re perfect at being you and that’s enough.

Please share!

41 thoughts on “I’m Not Perfect…

  1. olganm

    Reading Andrew Laties’s book ‘Rebel Bookseller’ I found this quote by Emerson (p 48);
    “Nature arms each man with some faculty which enables him to do easily some feat impossible to any other, and thus makes him necessary to society.” Your post brought it to my mind.
    Thanks:
    Olga
    http://OlgaNM.wordpress.com

  2. Rob Russo

    I do believe that we are perfect in this moment…we are perfectly, exactly where we are meant to be. Which is another good reason to not feel ‘less than’. That gets into comparison…and other people’s opinion of me is none of my business. :)

    1. Andrew Hines Post author

      I love that… “What other people think of me is none of my business”. Great!

  3. Elaine

    Great post! I used to tell my kids the same thing when they were growing up, but somehow I forget to listen to my own words. I think most of us do that. Thanks for visiting and following my blog Elaine’s Random Thoughts. I look forward to exploring your blog more. :-)

  4. christinevetus

    Sometimes it is a good idea to be hard on yourself too :) it’s not so much the lack of satisfaction but the drive to improve.

    I’m guilty of being a perfectionist though XD so don’t take my word for it haha

    1. Andrew Hines Post author

      Completely agree that we need to constantly improve, every day! That can be a positive thing though! :)

  5. Diana Frajman

    Great post Andrew!
    Although I think that the universe has made us perfect and exactly the way we should be for this life experience. If we choose to believe that then the mistakes and screw ups we make are just part of the experience too. That perspective makes me go easier on myself at any rate, but not always :)

  6. aswehopeblog

    Great summarization of a simple yet deceptively powerful idea! As a perfectionist, I find myself battling day in and day out to live by what you’ve written here. It’s hard for most of us to understand how even those little thoughts we have during the day– “I’m an idiot for missing that detail,” “I forgot her birthday, I’m an unthoughtful jerk,” “They liked my presentation but I know it should have been better”– can severely set us back in life! Constantly comparing to that “ideal” might feel like beneficial ambition, but for me it usually just means I’m anxious and unsatisfied even when I am objectively successful. It makes it impossible to see the natural perfection in my imperfection, which as you said is true for all of us!

    To counter this, I’m attempting to adopt a new daily habit (pieced together from several sources) where, at the end of each workday, I write down a short list of statements. Among them: Something I am thankful for, Something nice I did for someone, Something nice someone else did for me, Something I learned, My best/worst moment of the day, etc. After just a week, I’ve already found this makes a HUGE difference in how I see myself, my life, my work, and whatever “progress” I’m trying to make. Where before I would remember only the mistakes I made or the negative judgments I think people might have of me, I can end each day remembering good moments and successes. It helps me cut myself some slack and find peace I might not have otherwise realized I was lacking!

    1. Andrew Hines Post author

      awesome comment! you just pointed out an incredibly important habit. The habit of gratitude. It completely changes the way we see the world. I was on a daily routine for a while with 10 statements of gratitude every morning. I did explanations for each and spent about 20 minutes doing it. It made an incredible difference. You just encouraged me to pick it up again. :)

      1. aswehopeblog

        Glad to hear it! I have been traveling for several days and slipped out of the habit, and it’s amazing how much more draining life can seem without that 15-20 minutes of reflection and perspective. Hopefully I can keep remembering how valuable this is and stick with it. It helps to share and receive encouragement with others!

  7. Cheryl @ Stop The Stigma

    Aww, I love this! I once gave a handout at a workshop I was giving on self-esteem not realizing there were 3 typos. One woman indicated the errors and I had to think on my feet so it could work for the benefit of the course. “Well, isn’t that something! To err is human, now isn’t” The fact that I was not flustered and just took note of the errors gave an important lesson. I have kept those typos in the handouts…they proved too valuable:) Thanks for visiting my blog by the way :) I am honoured.

  8. btg5885

    Andrew, great post and very timely. My 16 year old daughter is following this right now to exercise every day. She is on Day 8. It is a great motivator. There is an excellent book and pretty easy read by Charles DuHigg called “The Power of Habit.” I wrote a post about it a few months ago after my niece turned me onto the book. Thanks for following my blog. I look forward to your comments. BTG

  9. teckdeck2008

    Great post! I was born and still am to some degree a perfectionist. This is something I have had to learn the hard way. However, this exact way of looking at my failings has helped me with that. Truth be told, I am probably the hardest worker when it comes to learning something new that I really want to learn; and it’s because I tell myself that failing, trying again, then eventually succeeding will only make me that much better than people who didn’t have to fail and try again.

  10. theh2obaby

    Thanks for the perspective. And it’s other people whom I need to learn to allow to be imperfect. The positive self-talk you offer? It works the other way, too. Good stuff.

  11. Rita Poynor

    As a former perfectionism addict, perfectionism was spawn from my need to be in control and to document my worthiness. Thankfully those days are long gone!

    1. Andrew Hines Post author

      haha, love that comment, Russel. Interesting analogy, I hope you’re tent sets up easily! :)

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